Yes, it is indeed possible to get the satisfaction of sex without having sex, this post is in continuation with our previous post where we discussed how you can excite or love your partner without being penetrative - For starters 

In this post, we will discuss some of the raunchiest ways of enjoying an orgasm without having the penis touch the vagina. Here it goes;

Masturbation together

It is one of the safest technique and increases sexual confidence amongst couples, it would be a surprise for many but many couples who often engage in penetrative sex, are many a time shy to even get naked or probably have never tried masturbation in front of their partner.

Masturbating in front of each one another ensures that you own your own orgasm, and are not dependent on your partner. You can totally surprise your partner by letting them come home and “catch” you rubbing yourself, trust me, no one can ever not like it.

Tip: One might get tempted to jump in and finish the job, but restraining your passions and enforcing a no touching rule for as long as possible — will only make things hotter.


Sex toys

There has been next level advancement in the world of sex toys, you can now have toys that can be controlled from a distance. If you are new to sex toys then I suggest you read our article.

Also read: Beginners guide to Sex toys for Men,  Beginners guide to Sex toys for Women,, Couples sex toy guide 

I highly recommend couples to try Lovense Max for men and Lush by Lovense for women It is am an amazing product where you get to orgasm without penetration and the motion is still controlled by your partner.

Tip: It is important to be lubricated when using sex toy, and not just any lubricant but the one advised by the product, water-based lubes like are great for toys while silicone-based lubes is better for intercourse, oral sex and fingering. The amount of natural lubricant a woman produces is not indicative of her level of arousal as everything from stress to dehydration to medications can affect the body’s ability to get wet.


 Dirty talk

Our brain is the largest sex organ in our body, ignoring it is a huge disservice. It is possible for individuals to orgasm in minutes or seconds without physical contact when they engage in dirty talk instead of sex.

Tip: Don’t rush into this, if you have not tried this before as it might lead to an awkward moment. Experts suggest a great way to build confidence and test the waters is by sexting your partner. It if works out, you have got yourself a game to play.



One thing that the franchise of 50 shades has done is, made people realize that they are not the only one who like Bondage, Spanking or Role-Playing. People are getting more experimental and do try new things in bed.

Here is a beginners guide to having BDSM, just to ensure you don’t get in the wrong direction. You can also check for roleplaying ideas and Guide to Spanking.

Tip: You do not have to go to extreme when experimenting. You can start with simple pair of handcuffs to get the thrill of being tied up. BDSM is about making your partner comfortable and exploring the side that you didn’t know existed – and that dear friends, can tip the excitment scale to orgasm

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Ratisha Das

Hi, I am Ratisha, and I am gay, I love to write about Sex and Liberation, a strong believer in "Live & Let Live. You can share your opinion about my writing in the comments below and I will try to attend all the comments

November 14, 2017

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